Good questions from grandchildren to grandparents can be an invitation to talk, with an adult’s help and without expecting a sweet or funny answer. Ask both of them whether they want to take part. The child can choose a question they understand, and the grandparent can tell a story, skip the topic or stop whenever they like.
Easy questions to start with
Ideal for younger grandchildren:
- What was school like when you were a kid?
- Did you have a nickname? Who came up with it?
- What was your favourite food when you were little?
Questions that lead to good stories
- What was the most mischievous thing you ever did?
- What was Christmas like when you were small?
- Did you have a pet?
Questions for the end
- What do you like most about being my grandpa (or grandma)?
- What advice do you want to give me for when I grow up?
If the participants want to record, an adult should first agree on the purpose, who will be able to listen and how the story will be reviewed. They can also help the child with the device. A conversation without a recording is another way to connect grandchildren and grandparents, with no promise of a particular effect on the bond.
A keepsake to treasure
With everyone’s permission, these recordings can become a tribute to grandparents while they are here. Before sharing, review the clip with the storyteller and with the adult responsible for the child. Each participant should be able to refuse the use of the audio; a conversation does not have to become a gift or a post.
The child takes part with an adult’s support
In Canada, a conversation between generations may cross cities, provinces and family languages. An adult can help set up the call or recording and explain to both people what will be kept. Let the child choose a question they understand and the grandparent decide whether to answer. Sharing the audio in the family group requires a new agreement; taking part in the conversation does not mean agreeing to open publication.
Further reading: Oral History Association — participants.